What Might The Student Do To Enhance The Perception Of Being Charismatic? (essay)

What Might The Student Do To Enhance The Perception Of Being Charismatic?

 

                      

Hillary Clinton and Michelle Obama have it. Their husbands also have it. The “it” is charisma. Girls and women talk about the power of charisma – how they want it and how they admire it. And who wouldn’t want to be charismatic? Synonyms for charisma are alluring, bewitching, captivating, fascinating, charming, enchanting, engaging, magnetic and seductive. Charisma is powerful and charismatic people can make others "drink the Kool-Aid." When possessed by people like Adolf Hitler and Charles Manson, charisma is dangerously powerful. But when it’s used for good, the Kool-Aid is really sweet. Everyone can be charismatic. We are not born charismatic - we cultivate it in many ways. One way is by observing and learning from people who you think are charismatic. You don’t need to copy them, but learn their secrets, try them on and fine-tune them until they fit you. It’s a trial and error process. Bad news is that once you have your charismatic status, you can lose it. Just look at Mel Gibson and Lindsay Lohan. But here’s the good news – if you lose it, with self awareness and effort, you can regain your charismatic ranking.  

 

                       Being a charismatic person means being a person who possesses special traits that attract,inspire,or fascinate other people in other words a person posessing charisma. Some people may wants to be a charismatic person,they want people around them to know their charisma. For example a college student. Some of the college students wants to be remembered as a person who is great at something such as a leader. To become that person they need to join clubs and communities to improve and develope their skills. Joining an organization will help them to show off their abilities. In an organization we can learn how to work with a team, Knowing how to work well with a team is an essential skill for any career. Being in a student organization teaches us how to do this by putting us in situations where we are required to take advice from others, as well as give our own. If we can work well with the team,people will know that we are a person who can work well with everyone. We can also learn about leadership in an organization. Becoming a leader or an officer in an organization will help us develop leadership skills that will be invaluable in all areas of life. We will be presented with opportunities to improve in public speaking, and gain confidence in ourself as an individual. There are many types of clubs and organizations in campus that we can join to enhance our charisma. If you want to be known as a person who is great  at playing music instruments,you can join the music clubs. In this club you can gather around the people who loves music and plays intruments very well. You can maybe form a band together with them and talks about your favorite music. Next,if you like to sing and can sing well,you can join the choir club. People will recognized your great voice and singing skills if you join the club. There will also be a lot of opportunities that you can get such as attending singing competition. If you like to do some charity,you can join the organization . There the charitable organizations learn specific skills on how to better run their organization. The organization will teach specific skills in fundraising and campaigning fundraising events. if you love sport and have talents in it,you can join the sport clubs,such as basketball,football,volleyball and tennis clubs. You will be admitted as an athletic person in the campus. You can learn great team works in the clubs,because you have to work with the team well to win a competion. You can also learn how to be a dicipline person. there are many other clubs that you can join to be a charismatic person.

 

But actually if you want to be a charismatic person the simplest way is to :

 

1) Be Self Confident

Like yourself. It’s much easier for others to like you if you like yourself.

Be optimistic. Keep your glass half-full. Be enthusiastic.

Be comfortable with who you are. Be consistent.

Hold your own. Think Sheryl Sandberg – she holds her own in a male dominated geeky world and is still feminine. She knows herself and isn’t trying to be someone else.

Don’t: Trot out all your issues. No one wants to be with Debbie Downer. We all have problems, but compartmentalize them, park them in a corner and bring them out for close friends and family.

2) Tell Great Stories

"The universe is made of stories, not of atoms." (Muriel Rukeyser, Poet and Activist)

Speak with conviction. Use words like “I am sure” vs. tentative words like “I think, I hope and I feel.”

Be tuned into humor. Self-deprecating humor can included - it’s ok to tell a story about an embarrassing moment.

Be relevant. Know what’s happening in the world and around you. People want to be with people who are in the know.

Don’t: Confuse humor with bad joke telling. Don’t self-deprecate yourself out of the conversation. Don’t put yourself down so much that it takes away from who you are.

3) Body Speak

Be open and approachable. Gracious and graceful.

Walk up to someone, smile, make eye contact, shake hands. Introduce yourself by saying your name, "Hi, I'm Ann, Ann Roberts." That way people hear your voice twice.

Own the room when you walk into it. Think President Obama when he walks to the podium. Get your own personal swagger.

Don’t: Overdo it. When you smile, be authentic. If your smile is not in your eyes, people will know you're faking it.

4) Make The Conversation About The Other Person

Let the world revolve around the person you’re talking to.

Make the person feel like they are the only person on the planet at that time.

Immediately put others at ease and make them feel comfortable with you.

Don’t: Let your ego drive the conversation. We all have egos. If your ego is in overdrive, check it at the door.

5) Be A Good listener

You can’t remember everything, but remembering someone’s name is a biggie. Here’s a trick: When you are introduced to a person, immediately repeat their name. Example: “Amanda, it’s so nice to meet you.”

Listen with interest. Pay attention. Engage. Be empathetic.

Don’t: When you’re talking with someone at an event, do not check your cell phone or look around the room to see if someone more important is there. If you want to find someone more important, make the conversation brief and move on graciously.

 

 

 

by putri ayu 

comm 2017 class 2

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